meet jane

accepting new clients: jane@thebreakuptherapist.com

individual and couples counseling //online and in-person therapy in asheville & across north carolina

lgbtq+, gender identity, and relationship therapy for teens and adults

you don't need to have everything figured out before starting therapy.

many people come to therapy feeling anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure of who they are. others are questioning their identity, relationships, future, or sense of belonging.

i work with teens and adults who are exploring questions about identity, authenticity, and how they want to live. many of my clients are queer, trans, autistic, creative, or neurodivergent adults who have spent years masking, adapting, or feeling misunderstood.

my goal isn't to tell you who you are. therapy is a space to better understand yourself, make sense of your experiences, and move toward a life that feels more aligned and sustainable.

many of my clients have tried therapy before. some felt pressured to fit into a diagnosis, pushed toward goals that didn't feel authentic, or left feeling more misunderstood than when they started. if that's been your experience, we'll spend time understanding what didn't work and creating something different together.

i work best with clients who:

  • are questioning or exploring their gender, sexuality, neurodivergence, or sense of identity as a partner, parent, friend, community member

  • identify as queer, trans, nonbinary, gender-expansive, or are still figuring out what feels right

  • are navigating a gender transition, coming out process, or significant identity shift

  • are exploring polyamory, ethical non-monogamy (enm), or alternative relationship structures

  • are neurodivergent and looking for affirming, identity-conscious support

  • have had negative or harmful experiences in therapy and want to try something different

relationship therapy for couples and polycules

many of us were taught that there is one "right" way to have relationships. for some people, that framework fits. for others, it doesn't.

i work with people exploring polyamory, ethical non-monogamy (enm), relationship anarchy, chosen family, queer relationships, and other relationship structures that may fall outside of traditional expectations. together, we can explore communication, boundaries, jealousy, attachment, identity, and the challenges that arise when you're trying to build relationships that actually fit your values rather than someone else's rules.

what working together is like

my style is warm, collaborative, curious, and direct. together, we'll explore the patterns, experiences, and relationships that have shaped you and identify what needs to change for you to feel more connected to yourself and others.

whether you're exploring your identity, navigating a relationship change, making sense of a neurodivergent experience, or trying to understand why life feels harder than it seems to for everyone else, i'd be honored to support you.

a lot of the people who find their way to me have spent a long time feeling like they don't quite fit—whether in their families, communities, relationships, or even in previous therapy experiences. many are understandably cautious about starting with someone new. if that sounds familiar, you might be wondering some of the same things my clients ask:

  • many people who ask this question have spent years masking parts of themselves, adapting to others' expectations, or feeling misunderstood by the people around them. therapy can help you better understand yourself and identify what might be contributing to that sense of disconnection.

  • absolutely. you do not need to have anything figured out before starting therapy. many people use therapy as a place to explore questions about identity, relationships, and belonging without pressure to arrive at a particular answer.

  • autism in adults often shows up as a lifelong feeling of being different, misunderstood, or exhausted by social expectations. many autistic adults describe masking, burnout, sensory overwhelm, difficulty understanding social dynamics, or feeling disconnected from others despite deeply wanting connection.

  • yes. many of my clients have had disappointing, invalidating, or even harmful experiences in therapy before. part of our work may involve understanding what felt unhelpful and creating a different kind of therapeutic relationship moving forward.

  • yes. many people experience suicidal thoughts and are afraid to discuss them honestly. therapy can be a space to talk openly about those experiences without shame while also focusing on safety and support.

  • yes. i work with couples and polycules navigating communication, boundaries, jealousy, intimacy, life transitions, and the unique challenges that can arise within consensually non-monogamous relationships.

  • yes. i work with teens ages 13 and older who may be navigating identity development, friendships, family conflict, anxiety, autism, gender identity, sexuality, or the challenges of growing up in a rapidly changing world.

faq

  • i work with teens and adults who are questioning identity, navigating neurodivergence, processing difficult life experiences, or seeking more authentic and fulfilling relationships.

    i work best with people who are curious about themselves, even if they feel confused, stuck, or overwhelmed. many of my clients have spent years feeling misunderstood, different, or disconnected from the people around them. they may be queer, trans, autistic, creative, highly sensitive, or simply trying to figure out who they are and how they want to move through the world. they are often looking for more than symptom relief-- they want a deeper understanding of themselves and relationships that feel more authentic and sustainable.

  • absolutely. you do not need to have certainty, labels, or answers before starting therapy. many of my clients come in with questions rather than conclusions. therapy can be a place to explore your experiences, values, relationships, and sense of self without pressure to arrive at a particular identity.

  • i am in network with BCBS, Aetna, MedCost, AmBetter, United, Healthy Blue BCBS, Tricare, Carolina Complete/ Wellcare Medicaid, Amerihealth Caritas, and UHC Community.

    private pay sessions are billed at $150 per 55 minutes

  • yes. i offer in person therapy on wednesdays and fridays, and provide telehealth services monday-friday.

  • yes, i offer telehealth therapy through a hipaa compliant, secure portal. all you need is a good internet connection, a safe and private spot, and to be in north carolina.

  • yes. i provide letters supporting gender-affirming care, including documentation that may be required for hormone replacement therapy (hrt), gender-affirming surgeries, or other services that follow WPATH standards of care.